Relationship Advice on how to R.S.V.P Your Love Energy in your Romantic Relationships
This morning my husband said something VERY profound…he was relaying to me how a co-worker was being negative, and was trying to engage him in his angry diatribe…you know the drill, “Misery needs company” He didn’t engage, and shared with me how he was not going accept that invitation to perpetuate negativity.
I was so intrigued with that response; if someone invites you into their negative energy field, you can decline the invitation! He said that he thought of positive things while listening to his co-worker, and miracle of miracles the co-workers whole energy shifted without my husband saying a thing, or agreeing with the negativity!
It got me thinking how this relates to romantic relationships…when you are dating or already in a marriage, or you have completed a relationship (divorced or non married break up) and share children together.
I am very energy sensitive, and when my husband (then boyfriend) and I started living together, I wasn’t used to anybody else’s energy but my own, so whether I was in a good mood or a bad one, it was mine to be with alone. When I became committed into a relationship & cohabitation, we both realized that our moods affected one another. If my husband was in a bad mood, or was visibly upset, I learned to breathe through it & not take it on as my own. In the infancy of our relationship, he felt as though I didn’t care about the situation, if I wasn’t visibly upset. As we grew our listening skills, we both learned that misery doesn’t need company, and that sometimes all we need to do is vent, and have someone listen while we release the negative energy. The listener doesn’t need to be emotionally affected by the venting, just be a safe loving presence in which to anchor in love, so that when the person venting has fully released the negative energy, they can slide right into the love.
So next time a loved one is negative, don’t personalize it! while you are listening to them…send them loving thoughts and watch how the energy shifts!
